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When it comes to raising children, it’s easy to look at others’ children who are so well behaved and think that you must be a failure as a parent because your child is the one screaming because you won’t buy him or her a cookie.
The fact is, though, that temperament plays a big role in your child’s development. Some children are more likely to be stubborn while others are shy and reserved. Some children are very sensitive to things like touch, taste, and sound while others could sleep through an earthquake. Your parenting style has no effect on your children’s inborn personalities. You can learn ways to deal with how they think and find ways that motivate them to behave, but sometimes, it’s beyond your control.
The first thing you’ll want to do is learn more about personalities. Figure out which one your child is and then learn techniques that can help specifically with that personality type. Remember too not to treat every one of your children the same. One technique might work for one child and not another.
One helpful thing is to find a method that can be adapted to your child’s personality. Love & Logic is a popular method that many parents live by. The method promotes patience and avoiding getting mad at your children. Instead it’s about showing love while implementing logical consequences to actions. It also involves having the child help choose the consequence. For example, if the child draws on the wall, you ask what they could do to rectify it, such as cleaning the wall.